Instructions: choose (1) or (2). Add up the points at the quiz's end.
1. For you, a "driving range" is defined as:
(1) green grass, blue skies, and your yellow golf balls
(2) the miles between hockey rinks (soccer fields, etc.) your child plays on during traveling team games
2. How well does your child know spiderman (barbie, etc.)?
(1) pretty well, by reading or watching a dvd they were in
(2) very well, as spiderman (barbie, etc.) has come to see him personally, at his birthday party
3. You artfully arrange a double sleepover (away) for your two kids on a Saturday night so you can:
(1) seduce your husband
(2) finish up studying how to help your kids with their homework
4. After a game of tennis with your daughter, you:
(1) give her a bottle of water, to rehydrate
(2) give her your remote control, thank her, and leave the room
5. You are cleaning the dinner dishes yourself because:
(1) your kids are in full body casts from a freak accident and can't help
(2) your kids are busy texting their friends
Scoring: If you scored 5 points, you are still a human person. If you scored 7-9, you are in the danger zone. If you scored 9 or 10, you have crossed over and become a robotic parent. Time for the 10 steps...
Monday, September 14, 2009
Take Your Time, Hurry Up!
Take your time, hurry up! is an expression that is quite apropos for today's parent. The hurry up part is the practice of parents rushing from place to place. The take your time part is practiced by coaches of the activities to which we are rushing to take our kids....
In yesterday's rush, I broke a nail getting out the door. Now this is sad when you consider that i have no nails. There was no "Oh my God, I broke a nail!" and the ensuing emergency trip to Bea's Nails for a fix. Nothing so glamorous as to throw a wad of cash at the problem and come out of it with a new glossy red paint job. No, I broke my nail such that it split into the actual live part of the nail, leaving the thick whitish top of it hanging. I don't have time for the former scenario, nor in all honesty, the inclination. Now toenails are another thing, but that's another story...
So. I get to the practice I'm rushing to "half an hour beforehand" as continuously instructed by my son's coach, through my son. I kiss what turns out to be the air my son leaves behind, as he is long gone, having taken off as soon as we've reached the parking lot, for fear anyone will see him with his mom. I mean who does he think people think drove him there? the car itself?
I then get back into the car and head to my 45 minute foray into the grocery store. That's 45 minutes of actual shopping time, then there's the 15 minutes to load the groceries in the car and drive home, the 15 minutes to unload and then the 15 minutes to drive back to practice and pick my son up. If I wasn't type A before i had kids, I am now. I need to be just in order to function.
I choose 2 "cheater salads" already washed, chopped, and bagged, rather than opting to forrage through the green leaf lettuces to check for quality and absence of major dirt and bugs. I choose to trade the extra 1.5 dollars it costs for the extra 1.5 minutes I gain in doing so. Time really is money these days.
I am done in under 45 minutes and go home to unload. That leaves 10 extra minutes. What should i do with these 10 free minutes? I waste 1 minute wondering and then I spy the newspaper across the room and I grab it and sit down. 8.5 minutes to read the day's news will have to do.
It's 15 minutes until the end of practice and so i head out the door. I arrive exactly on time and I wait on the sidelines until the coach dismisses the kids. I wait 5 minutes and then check my watch again. It's 10 minutes after the time practice is supposed to have ended but the kids are still practicing. I fish around in my knapsack to find my cell phone. I feel the phone and take it out to check the time. I am thinking maybe my watch is running early and the cell phone will have the right time. Nope. My watch is right and running on time.
I think of all the dishes in the sink and how they're piling up. Though I know I'm exaggerating, it makes me nervous nonetheless. Time is not only money, it's a precious commodity that we all are lacking these days. It's as if, waiting for this overdue practice to end, time is being wasted, poured into the big drain where lost dreams and unfulfilled promises go.
In my state of angst, I am now picturing the dishes, in my absence, actually multiplying in the sink. I check my watch again. It's 15 minutes past the end of practice. I am about to check my cell phone for the time again when mercifully, the coach calls out, "O.k. boys, nice job. We're done."
I secretly wipe the sweat from my temples and put on a smile for my son. "Did you have a good time at practice?" I ask as he dodges me to walk in front of me to the car, apparently wanting people to think that maybe he will be driving himself home for the evening?
In yesterday's rush, I broke a nail getting out the door. Now this is sad when you consider that i have no nails. There was no "Oh my God, I broke a nail!" and the ensuing emergency trip to Bea's Nails for a fix. Nothing so glamorous as to throw a wad of cash at the problem and come out of it with a new glossy red paint job. No, I broke my nail such that it split into the actual live part of the nail, leaving the thick whitish top of it hanging. I don't have time for the former scenario, nor in all honesty, the inclination. Now toenails are another thing, but that's another story...
So. I get to the practice I'm rushing to "half an hour beforehand" as continuously instructed by my son's coach, through my son. I kiss what turns out to be the air my son leaves behind, as he is long gone, having taken off as soon as we've reached the parking lot, for fear anyone will see him with his mom. I mean who does he think people think drove him there? the car itself?
I then get back into the car and head to my 45 minute foray into the grocery store. That's 45 minutes of actual shopping time, then there's the 15 minutes to load the groceries in the car and drive home, the 15 minutes to unload and then the 15 minutes to drive back to practice and pick my son up. If I wasn't type A before i had kids, I am now. I need to be just in order to function.
I choose 2 "cheater salads" already washed, chopped, and bagged, rather than opting to forrage through the green leaf lettuces to check for quality and absence of major dirt and bugs. I choose to trade the extra 1.5 dollars it costs for the extra 1.5 minutes I gain in doing so. Time really is money these days.
I am done in under 45 minutes and go home to unload. That leaves 10 extra minutes. What should i do with these 10 free minutes? I waste 1 minute wondering and then I spy the newspaper across the room and I grab it and sit down. 8.5 minutes to read the day's news will have to do.
It's 15 minutes until the end of practice and so i head out the door. I arrive exactly on time and I wait on the sidelines until the coach dismisses the kids. I wait 5 minutes and then check my watch again. It's 10 minutes after the time practice is supposed to have ended but the kids are still practicing. I fish around in my knapsack to find my cell phone. I feel the phone and take it out to check the time. I am thinking maybe my watch is running early and the cell phone will have the right time. Nope. My watch is right and running on time.
I think of all the dishes in the sink and how they're piling up. Though I know I'm exaggerating, it makes me nervous nonetheless. Time is not only money, it's a precious commodity that we all are lacking these days. It's as if, waiting for this overdue practice to end, time is being wasted, poured into the big drain where lost dreams and unfulfilled promises go.
In my state of angst, I am now picturing the dishes, in my absence, actually multiplying in the sink. I check my watch again. It's 15 minutes past the end of practice. I am about to check my cell phone for the time again when mercifully, the coach calls out, "O.k. boys, nice job. We're done."
I secretly wipe the sweat from my temples and put on a smile for my son. "Did you have a good time at practice?" I ask as he dodges me to walk in front of me to the car, apparently wanting people to think that maybe he will be driving himself home for the evening?
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